A Request Of Significant Others

I have a request of Significant Others (SOs) to provide me with their experiences so I may post them. I would like the transgendered folks I am trying to help to have a better idea of what it may be like for their SOs when they find out about the transgender.

For the transgendered person:

This is not restricted to any gender or form of transgender.
I want you to make this request on your behalf.
I do not want you to be involved in any way other than making the request.
I want you to never read the message given me unless you are explicitly allowed. I will be posting it on the net. Read it there.

For the Significant Other:

I want you to be safe from any repercussions so if you do not feel you can do this, I understand.
I want you to delete the e-mail and the actual file attached if you used one so it cannot be read later when you are not around.
After you delete the message, I want you to empty the e-mail trash if you can.
I need these to be real, I am not going to edit them and I hope you will not be so mean and provide a lie.
This does not have to be in English. I want other nationalities to be able to read these too.
E-mail your writings to my e-mail address on my homepage (or use the link at the bottom of this page).

For myself:

I will remove anything that I think will identify you.
I will not respond to your e-mail in case someone may read it who should not.
I will not censure the letter you give me. I feel it is best to get the raw feelings that you may share in how you write.
I will group your letter as I feel appropriate.
I will post your letter when I think it is appropriate. Also, I want to delay the posting somewhat just to separate the two events in case someone knows what is going on who should not.

Please provide the information requested in the order below so that you can be grouped with others with similar circumstances. Can you be very concise and just talk to the questions? I do not want these to be very long because I hope to have a lot of them. Maybe a half of a typed regular size piece of paper. This means you need to say exactly what you mean. Sorry for the shortness but it will help in the long run.

The information I need from the SOs:

What does your SO call him/herself? For example, is (s)he a male-to-female transsexual? A crossdresser? A female-to-male transsexual?
Were you living together when you found out? If so, for how long when you found out?
How did you first find out? Were you told by him/her? Did you discover clothes or a receipt?
When you found out, how did you feel? For example, did you feel anger? Did you think you loved a pervert? This is going to be tough for you to talk about, but this is exactly what needs to be said.
What did you do when you first found out? Did you leave? Did you immediately confront your SO? Did you cry, yell, stop talking?

For a second writing, I would like the readers to know three more things.

The three things:

What has been the best result in your relationship now that you know? Are you happier? Does (s)he help you do more? What has improved from you knowing about your SO?
Okay, now give me the dark side of knowing. What has been the worst part of knowing? Is (s)he going to leave you one day? Do you want that?
Lastly, what would you do differently to help you and your SO get through this if you had been or are struggling?

If you need some guidance or are ready to send your write up, use one of my feedback links at the top or left on this page (change the subject to "SO Input").

Thank you everyone, for trying.
{squeezes} Davita